Ok, I made a slight edit, but with good reason which I’ll explain. This was a headline I saw on Yahoo today: “Oil prices plunge at fastest rate in 17yrs!”

I couldn’t help but think of all the doom and gloom headlines regarding oil that have been coming out daily for months and months.

“Gas prices could hit $7 a gallon”

“No end in site to runaway oil prices”

“Economy teetering due to skyrocketing oil prices”

Think back even just a week ago. Would you have imagined seeing the headline today, “Oil prices plunge at fastest rate in 17yrs”?

Gee, what could next week bring?

“No bottom in site to falling oil prices”

“Experts predict a free-fall to $1 a gallon”

“Stock market explodes to record highs as oil prices collapse”

No, I am not making this prediction (at least not as soon as next week), but I am trying to point out that we say similar negative headlines to ourselves every day, don’t we? And we believe them to…

“We’re slipping into a recession, I’ll never find a job now”

“My money problems are skidding out of control”

“My life is a disaster, and things are about to get worse”

Oil goes up, and it goes down. As does the stock market, the housing market, and our problems.

You see, the media have known for decades that the key to catching our attention is a great headline…especially one that scares the daylights out of us.

Well, our crafty old minds have picked up on this little gem of a strategy. It’s called “Sensationalizing”…a quick look at Dictionary.com and I found, “Sensationalizing: To cast and present in a manner intended to arouse strong interest, especially through inclusion of exaggerated or lurid details”

So, the moral of the story is this. The next headline you read that scares you, remember the above definition, especially the word “exaggerated”. And more importantly, do the same thing the next time you hear that little sensationalizing headline writer inside your head. Since we attract what we think about, it’s probably time to promote yourself to Editor and Chief and redline your “head”-lines.

Rich

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Allowance: The act of allowing: Permission

Isn’t it funny that the word allowance, which most of us link to receiving money from our parents, has the word “allow” in it? And, according to Merriam-Webster dictionary (above), one of its meanings is to “allow”, or give “permission”!

This is the key to the law of attraction. I know that many, many people are struggling attracting the things that they desire using some of the tools and techniques that are suggested for the law of attraction. They get frustrated and give up. The main reason for this is that the last step is usually to “let go”, or just “allow” it to happen. And this is where people fail. Thus, no results are had.

Let’s first agree that the law of attraction is real. Feel free to change the wording, and call it belief, faith, ability to attract, etc. But, look around you. Do you seem to always “attract” money problems? Or, do you always “attract” the same type of person as a partner? What issues consistently come into your life? How can every guy/girl you date treat you the same way?? Are you attracting this? Yes. Ok, enough convincing. I assume if you’re here you already know it works.

Change the Game!

Ok, so you’ve tried to attract money, a better mate, a better job, but all you seemed to attract was depression from failing to attract them. So, let’s change our game plan and get this to work for us. Instead of focusing on the desire outcome, such as an amount of money, or whatever you desire, focus on living in a state of allowance. Just being in this state will bring your desires to you. Let’s face it, you’ve already “asked”, right? Haven’t you asked enough? Now let’s give ourselves the permission to receive.

Try and identify that feeling you get after you’ve received something you wanted. A great gift, you won some money, you were asked out by that certain someone, you got the job offer, whatever it may be. Isn’t there a lightness? Doesn’t it feel like a pressure valve has been opened, and your whole body just relaxes? This is the state I’m referring to, not necessarily the excitement, but the relief feeling. That’s being open. That’s what it feels like to not be in the state of “wanting”. Once you’ve identified that feeling, welcome it. Then, catch yourself when you feel stress in your body. This means your mind has just thought about something you don’t have and has gone into wanting again. Fear is the same thing. The tightness will usually hit your chest, your stomach, or your neck and shoulders. Go inside and look at it. Then imagine a valve on the outside, and just open it. Let that pressure out. Hear it come out if that helps.
Then say to yourself, “Ahh, I love being so open”. Use reminders as you go about your day. When you open a door, remind yourself to open up and let go of any pressure. When you see a green light, do the same. When you open a bottle or can, just pause, and let it all go.

Taking your mind off of what you’re lacking, and focusing more on being open will make you feel great, and will allow your blessing the chance to come to you. A good habit is to remind yourself each morning that you will be open today. Try and do this with each bite you take of your breakfast. Your mouth has to “open” to receive the food. So open yourself up too with each bite, and decide that today you will be open. At night when you go to bed, think back on your day and remember how many times you remembered to open up and allow.

Your allowance is waiting!

Rich

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What do you want?

Sometimes we find ourselves asking questions such as… Do I really want this job? Do I really want this relationship? Do I really want to be rich? Well, I have a very simple answer to these, and all other “what do I really want” questions.

Look around. Whatever you “have”, you “want”.

Yes, ask and it is given. Now I know this doesn’t feel good to hear, but it is true. If you are broke, you want to be. If you are alone, in a bad relationship, overweight, or stuck in a dead end job, that’s what you want! Still reading? Good. Intuitively, this is tough to grasp. It reminds me of a great line from the movie “The Breakup”, with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn. In the scene, she asks him to help her with the dishes right after dinner. But he has just plopped down on the couch, and wants to just relax and play a video game. An argument ensues, and finally he reluctantly gets up and agrees. She’s not happy now, and he asks why. She says, “I want you to want to do the dishes”. He looks at her as though she’s grown a third eye and brilliantly replies, “Why I would I want to do the dishes?”

Because I Said So!

As a kid I would often pester my father with “why” questions. Especially whenever he said no to one of my many requests. After much deliberation, he would finally put an end to the discussion with the famous line, “because I said so”. I am certain I am not the only kid who ever heard that one. And how many of you who used to hear that as kids are now using it on your kids?? But, this is a good example of how our mind works. When it came to voting rights, I’d say my father had 90%, to my 10%. Ok, he had 100%. Does that mean I was powerless? No. I could decide how to react to his decision. Perhaps I could spend time figuring out why he decided that, rather than fighting against the decision. Or, I could just accept it, and go back to playing with my electric train.

This is how the mind works. In the end, the subconscious mind has 100% voting rights. We can argue, fight, want, wish, beg, but we will lose every time. So, are we powerless to it? No. Again, we can accept it and go on enjoying our “electric trains”, or better still, we can figure out why we want that. I say “we”, because in the end, that is what we really want. And that’s the good news. We do get whatever we want.

The best way to work with this is to figure out why. Our minds like to manage and figure things out. Use this to your advantage, and play Sherlock Holmes for a while. Let’s use the example of my father and me, assuming he is taking the role of my subconscious mind. I want a mini-bike. The kind with a motor. He says, no! I beg, cry, whine, scream, pound the couch, threaten to run away, you know em all. Still, no mini-bike. Frankly, my chances have diminished with every move I make. Does any of this sound familiar? Is this still how we are behaving as adults, but asking God instead of our parents?

My Dear Watson…..

So let’s say instead that I decided to figure out why he didn’t want me to have one. I take out a sheet of paper and a crayon, and scribble “me” on one side, “Dad” on the other, and then draw an almost undetectable picture of my mini-bike above. On my side I write that it would be fun. On his side I right that I would crash. Break my arm. Break my nose. Bleed. Go the hospital. Get hit by a car. Get hit by a tree. Chased by neighbors dog. Caught. Bit. Bleed. Back to the hospital….Ok, thanks Dad!! See. I didn’t “truly” want the mini-bike in my mind, so I wouldn’t allow myself to get it.

Try this with whatever it is that you want. If you are broke, figure out why you want to be. Yes, you want to be, for some reason. Could be you want to rescued, you want others pity, you want to feel the need for God. Any number of psychological reasons that I don’t dare try and figure out, but they are there.

The Good News!

Yes, there is good news. As soon as you figure out why you want what you think you don’t want, the safe has been cracked. You are now in alignment, and the situation will reverse itself. Imagine this….”Dad, I figure that you don’t want me to have a mini-bike because you think I will get hurt or hit by a car. Thanks for worrying about me. Ok, I promise that I will only ride it in the field where there are no trees or potholes. I will walk it whenever I am on the road, and I will only ride it when Mom can come and watch. And I’ll always have my helmet on”.
I’ll bet my chances of now getting the mini-bike just went way up. The same is true for you. Just identify the bully, say I’m not afraid of you now, and away he goes.

Until I walk in the garage and see that mini-bike with a ribbon on it, I’ll be here enjoying my electric train!

Rich

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I will be commenting on this from time to time, and have added a category just for the topic of the Law of Attraction. For those of you who are unfamiliar with this topic, the law of attraction simply states that what we focus on expands. Or, You get what you think about. This is not a new idea or discovery, it has just been given a new wrapper, with a clever title. It really is not different from positive thinking. The trick is to aim your thoughts at what you want, not what you don’t. This however is the hard part, and why many people claim that the law of attraction doesn’t work, or it doesn’t exist. I think the truth is that it does exist, and it works 100% of the time. We just don’t realize this, nor do we know how to use this to our advantage. In this section I will be breaking down some of the pitfalls, some of the books addressing this, and offering what I think are the best ways to utilize this law. I must admit I don’t like referencing this as a law. I would prefer that it was referred to as our Ability to Attract. Not as catchy, okay, but it sure seems friendlier.

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